March 23, 2017

January 7, 2010

A Covenant Story

A man and a woman are in love.

They decide to marry.

Coming from different faith traditions, they eschew traditional vows.

Instead they make a covenant to be “faithful” to one another.

Both bring different understandings of faithfulness to their marriage.

But over time they become one in flesh and spirit and understanding.

And their love expands to include others

The woman and the man love much, openly and freely.

They give one another the gift of exploration and freedom.

And both are faithful to the covenant they have made.

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So they share freely the venereal diseases they have acquired in their open, expansive expressions of inclusion of others in their faithfulness, showing a benighted and traditional world the higher consciousness of love incarnated in a respect for all lifeforms which they faithfully host in their bodies and share.  Except of course the unintended consequences of their sharing which they terminate, end, abort in faithfulness to the prevention of climate change.  And they lived miserably with their choices, all of them, for the rest of their days.

[1] Posted by dwstroudmd+ on 1-7-2010 at 08:13 AM · [top]

The 158 Pound Marriage, one of John Irving’s earlier novels. The main character thinks he is living in such a covenant; until his wife leaves him( with their kids)because she fell in love with the other man. He also realizes his other woman was just using him to get even with her husband for infidelity. At the end of the book he is sitting alone in his kitchen wearing his wife’s robe because he can still smell her scent in it.

[2] Posted by Jimmy DuPre on 1-7-2010 at 08:19 AM · [top]

Marriage is a parallel to the relationship between Christ and the Church and between the LORD GOD and Israel, whom He commanded, ‘Thou shalt have no other gods before ME.’

Marital adultery is the human relational equivalent of idolatry and syncretism which breaks our relationship with God and broke the Covenant between God and Israel and also breaks the New Covenant in Christ’s blood and as well as breaking both First Commandments.  Adultery and any form of sexual immorality breaks the 7th Commandment and the ruling of the Jerusalem Council which was the first council of the new Church in Acts 15.

Open marriage doesn’t have any Biblical defense at all, Hosea and Gomer nonwithstanding.  It is spiritually, morally, relationally, emotionally and physically unhealthy…for children, family, church and society, as well as for the participants.

[3] Posted by Floridian on 1-7-2010 at 09:04 AM · [top]

Hint. this story is about more than marriage.

[4] Posted by Matt Kennedy on 1-7-2010 at 09:05 AM · [top]

sounds a whole lot like the so-called Anglican covenant.  Anything goes, but we are all being faithful!!  not to God but to each other.

[5] Posted by cassie on 1-7-2010 at 09:11 AM · [top]

Oh I think if a couple decides to define faithfulness themselves that whatever they do is “faithful” so long as it is together or by mutual consent.

[6] Posted by Matt Kennedy on 1-7-2010 at 09:17 AM · [top]

Read my thought on this at the at the Deacon’s Slant.

Phil Snyder

[7] Posted by Philip Snyder on 1-7-2010 at 11:51 AM · [top]

Hey Matt - all they need now is a once-respected publication to chronicle the faithfulness of their evolving covenant.

[8] Posted by Greg Griffith on 1-7-2010 at 12:20 PM · [top]

And both are faithful to the covenant they have made.

What they’ve “made” is a presumption that they may design their ‘covenant’ ad hoc.  If we’re talking about a marriage covenant, then protology needs to be taken into account (m+f), in addition to the eschatology reflected within the marriage covenant (Christ—> Church;  Husband—> Wife). 

Okay, so I take it you’re talking about the Anglican Communion covenant.  I would start with the Great Commission (all of it) as a basis, and go from there.  If the covenant is based on the “teaching them to obey all that I have commanded you,” phrase, then these things should come out in the wash.  But .. it won’t come out in the wash, since relationships will be the yardstick for measuring how well we do what He commands us.

[9] Posted by J Eppinga on 1-7-2010 at 05:14 PM · [top]

Fr. Matt, my friend Fr. Matt,

Let’s talk about “covenant”.  After checking with both Black’s and Webster’s, my impression is reinforced that a covenant is an agreement between two or more persons competent a) to covenant, contract, in the jurisdiction involved, b) to understand the terms and conditions of the covenant, c)  and to fulfill their respective obligations undertaken in the covenant.

The “marriage” covenant you describe appears, for the sake of discussion, to be between two consenting, competent parties.  If its purpose is to formalize their common commitment to “marriage” and “faithfulness”, as they understand and agree upon those terms, for the purpose of preserving their “marital” relationship, as they understand it, you offer no evidence that it does not have considerable potential for accomplishing that, in my opinion.

If, on the other hand, the purpose of their covenant was to enhance salvation of their souls relying on Christ’s sacrifice of Himself on the cross and the benefits of Grace based on acceptance of Him as their Savior, then it falls quite short.

I cannot recall a meaningful discussion of the objective, the purpose of the Anglican Covenant.  What is its purpose?  Why has it been drafted and considered?  What is the problem, specifically stated, that a proposed Anglican Covenant is intended to fix.  I have heard lots of eloquent dissertations about the covenant language.  Without a framework of purpose and objective, I find it difficult to evaluate the language of the several drafts.

I have my own opinions about what the objective should be.  Until there is an agreement on the objective, the language cannot be effectively evaluated.

That applies also to the hypothetical covenant you cited.

God bless!

[10] Posted by Ol' Bob on 1-7-2010 at 10:25 PM · [top]

Hi Ol Bob,

The covenant in the story above not only has the “potential” to create a lasting and loving relationship as defined by two parties…it has done so. And I have no doubt that our covenant will have precisely the same effect.

[11] Posted by Matt Kennedy on 1-7-2010 at 10:44 PM · [top]

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