Waiting Til the Wedding Night

Is waiting the right thing to do?  What is your church teaching about pre-martial sex?  Or are they?

Let me preface this column by saying this: my wife (I have to get used to saying that) and I not only waited sexually in every way (no, we didn’t pull the Bill Clinton and technically avoid “sex” sex,) but we didn’t shack up as live-ins and most importantly, we courted each other in a way that was consistent with our publicly professed values.

We did it right.

Our wedding was perfect. Our wedding night was nothing short of amazing. I write this on a plane heading into a tropical paradise with the most beautiful woman to have walked the planet earth.

Feeling judged? I couldn’t care less. You know why? Because my wife and I were judged all throughout our relationship. People laughed, scoffed and poked fun at the young, celibate, naive Christian couple.

We’d certainly never make it to the wedding without schtupping, and if we did, our “wedding night would be awkward and terrible,” they said.

Turns out that people couldn’t have been more wrong.  Looking back, I think that the women saying those things felt like the floozies they ultimately were, and the men, with their fickle manhood tied to their pathetic sexual conquests, felt threatened.

You may disagree with the way he said it but he is correct.  People go out of their way to cajole, insult and tempt those who are not walking the path they have chosen when that path is one opposed to Christian values.  Must be where the misery loves company line orginated.

Alcohol is the perfect example.  I rarely drink.  It is a choice I have made for my own reasons.  I could care less if you drink as long as you can do it without acting like a drunken fool or drive a moving vehicle.  When I attend social functions, I have taken to quietly ordering a club soda with a twist.  I try never to respond to an offer of an alcoholic beverage with “Sorry, I don’t drink” because it is like a double-dog dare to every drinking person in the room to make it their sole goal of the evening to get me to have an alcoholic beverage.  I simply respond, “No thanks, have one already.” 

Sex is the other “must do” activity for America.  Anyone who does not participate is a prude.  A goody two shoes. Or considered a hypocrite who surely does what they condemn in the darkness of the night.  Children are being assaulted with the notion that their sexual urges are uncontrollable and therefore they must take action to avoid the consequences of these pre-ordained acts.  There is no backlash when the sexually active taunt the abstinent.  When is the last time you heard sex outside of marriage (to each other none the less) condemned?  When society is in a full court press backed by Big Brother Government, Apostate Religious Groups and Moraless Hollywood, how do those who are charged to guide the innocent withstand the assault?