March 26, 2017

September 3, 2013

“being found in human form”

I’m sharing this without a link or attribution, because it is from a woman in a support group for care givers to chronically ill family members and there’s expectation of privacy.  But what she has to say should echo beyond the confines of the group, and I think she makes a point that can be extrapolated beyond family care giving to relationships in all kinds of settings.

While anyone with a disability is inherently selfish—not by rude standards, but because it requires most of the focus to be on them, I know that I can also be selfish and really not understand where my husband is and how he feels. I get selfish too and often just think about how “his disability is affecting me.” It is a difficult balance to live cohesively and lovingly with each other in the best of circumstances, but none of us here live in that realm. It is difficult and I believe, like many of you, that it requires a daily commitment and a daily visit to the cross.

I also appreciate her witness in a setting that is not exclusively Christian.  There are people of other faiths and secular folks there, and she was unashamed to point to the source of her life.

The title of this post is lifted from this.

Note: this is not an invitation to debate the merits of “daily visit.”  She’s saying “stay near Jesus Christ.”  Nitpicky comments will be deleted.

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Watch my grandmother and my dad take care of their better halves for years.  It’s a struggle - very well said.

[1] Posted by B. Hunter on 9-3-2013 at 09:29 AM · [top]

My mother in law died Thursday afternoon.  This whole summer has been a long lesson in revealing my own bent towards selfishness and impatience when just the opposite is needed in caring for someone who is becoming frailer and more needing of help by the day.  It was like parenting in reverse.
That whole caring for the least of these is quite the crucible for lessons in righteousness.

[2] Posted by MTDave on 9-3-2013 at 07:31 PM · [top]


South Dakota Prayers ascending for you, your wife and family.

[3] Posted by Fr. Chip, SF on 9-4-2013 at 08:53 PM · [top]

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