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Wednesday, May 2, 2007 • 7:38 am

One moment, the prisoner is alive, blood pumping through his veins, organs fed by oxygen, lungs inflating, cells dividing, and the body bursting with all the breath and creativity and life of God’s spirit.  The next moment, like a puppet whose strings are cut, the body collapses, evacuated of all that had animated it moments earlier. The last shot comes to the escapee, the best friend of the POW’s senior officer. 


[This is the first in a series of four articles about “hard things” in the Christian life.]

Recently I watched a movie that covered one of the largest rescues from a prisoner of war camp in the American military; the movie is called The Great Raid.  Before I highly recommend it to blog readers [which I do] I need to note that it is not really “my type of movie”.  My favorites tend to be movies that combine strong philosophical themes with great acting and high artistry: Out of Africa, Hero, The Usual Suspects, The Mission, and many more. 

But I am very glad that I watched this one, not only because it is a good movie, but for other reasons I’ll talk about later.

The events that the movie portrays took place near the end of WWII.  The U.S. had abandoned the Philippines near the beginning of the war, and the result was that some 75,000 U.S. soldiers and Filipinos were captured and held by the Japanese.  Those that survived the Bataan Death March were held in three POW camps on the islands, one of them Cabanatuan.

Towards the end of the war, the Japanese had instituted a “Kill All” policy for remaining POWs; a part of this policy was apparently in order to eliminate possible witnesses for war crimes trials.  The policy was confirmed by the sole escapee from the island of Paluwan’s camp; he survived after 150 POWs were herded into Air Raid shelters, sealed in, doused with gasoline, and burned alive.

During the raid, 127 members of the Army’s 6th Ranger Battallion [Army Rangers, the 6th Battallion described in the movie by its Lieutenant Colonel as “the best trained and least tested fighting force ever” in 1944] moved behind enemy lines through forests and fields over a period of days, and with the help of the Filipino guerrilla forces [which had, incidentally, continued fighting on the islands for three long years, facing defeat against hopeless odds], raided Cabanatuan and released 511 POWs.  Only two of the battallion were killed.  More than 500 Japanese soldiers were killed, and many thousands held off by the Filipino forces, which guarded the main road and bridge while the raid took place.

It was a simply spectacular feat by U.S. Special Operations, and one of their finest hours.

The movie observes different groups involved in the raid, including the Filipino Underground movement [led by, of all things, an American woman], the Filipino guerrillas, the Army Rangers, and the POWs.  It is with the POWs that we observe the standard Japanese treatment of their enemies. 

That treatment, historically, had worsened alarmingly in the 1930s [historians can compare Japanese military actions from the 1800s onward, which attempted at least to accord with international law].  This was due in part to the new militaristic dictatorship of Japan, their long culture of honor,  shame, disgrace, and victory, and much more.  POWs of the Germans, for instance, had about a 3% chance of death prior to the end of the war; POWs of the Japanese had about 30% chance of death.  All in all, if you were a U.S. military man, you hoped to be captured by the Germans, not the Japanese.  My own private judgement about the differences between the two cultures is that the Germans were ruled by their rationalism, Darwinism, utilitarianism, and scientism—the end result of the Enlightenment; the Japanese still seemed to be ruled by their mediaeval history, culture, and militant nationalism.  The results of both, without the gospel, are the same—a furious disregard for human life, brutal attempts at control of others, made more brutal the less successful it is, and a cruelty, savagery, and barbarity that—with just a few minutes of surfing of the actual facts of the millions dead and tortured in a very small period of time—should fill each one of us with horror and sickness.

I think the movie is an important one to see.  For one thing, we need to be reminded of our past, and of the men and women who saw and accomplished more than most of us will ever understand.  We need to be reminded of all that they suffered and died for so that we could sit here reading a blog, while drinking a cup of coffee.  We are a fortunate nation, and never more so than when we have such people with us who are willing to fight for the freedom we hold dear.

For another, we need to be reminded of what sort of sacrifice it takes to hold evil in check—who has to die, who has to hurt, who has to starve, who has to lose loved ones, who has to go down in complete and obliterating defeat—dying before victory is ever seen or known.  It’s as if, somehow, Americans are embarrassed, in all of our civilization and comfort, to admit that sometimes things are so bad, so wicked, so vile, that it takes enormous will and strength and courage to defeat them.  I think our lack of willingness to look these things in the eye and think on them is because we want to deny evil’s presence—and because we have lost the idea that anyone at all should be willing to confront or judge evil, if it is ever discovered.

As Christians, we should be well aware of the need for sacrifice.  After all, we know the Ultimate Sacrifice—the one who had to die, hurt, and go down in complete and obliterating defeat—dying before victory was seen or known—in order to confront, judge, and defeat evil. 

The main reason why I am glad that I watched this movie, though, is a bit more complex and it has to do with my Christian growth and a “first understanding” I had while watching it.  I’d like to share that with you, in case it is helpful to you too.

In one particular scene, the Japanese commandant fulfilled a long-ago promise.  He had promised that if one person attempted to escape, 10 of the remaining prisoners would be shot.  Throughout the movie, you know that one prisoner has a near obsession to escape.  He struggles against it mightily—and you inwardly hope that he will resist the urge.  But in the end, he is not able to, and he duly escapes, is recaptured, and the Japanese commandant fulfills his promise.  At the appointed day, he walks down the lines of POWs and selects the 10 he wants, lines them up, kneeling on the ground, along with the escapee, and one of his soldiers proceeds down the line, shooting each man in the head.

The scene is very silent and matter-of-fact.  There is no wailing, or oath-making, or attempts to run, or recriminations, or threats. 

One moment, the prisoner is alive, blood pumping through his veins, organs fed by oxygen, lungs inflating, cells dividing, and the body bursting with all the breath and creativity and life of God’s spirit.  The next moment, like a puppet whose strings are cut, the body collapses, evacuated of all that had animated it moments earlier. The last shot comes to the escapee, the best friend of the POW’s senior officer. 

I had the strangest sensation while watching this scene.  It was a scene that we have actually seen before, in fact, in movies—it was the way of the Japanese military, and nothing about it was unsurprising.  I usually identify with the victims of such scenes, try to imagine what it would be like, how I would behave, how scared I’d be.

But this time, I identified with those left behind.  As I looked at the remaining POWs and their faces as they watched this take place in front of them, a depth of compassion for them—especially their afterlives, after all of this was over and they were freed—overtook me and swamped me utterly.  I imagined first of all, the sheer helplessness of the scene, the powerlessness of observing a great evil like that.  And I imagined what would be there, under the surface, overwhelming grief and loss and shame—and beneath all of that a fierce implacable rage that is consuming and burning and long-lasting; it is the emotion that accompanies the cry for justice.

Most Christians speak about grace and mercy—but it is justice that is as fundamental and thirsty a need as anything.  We are uneasy at speaking about justice as Christians—after all, we know that if we get what we deserve, it will be justice, and justice won’t be pretty for any of us. 

But like the law of gravity, justice is woven into the fabric of the nature of the universe.  As gravity keeps the planets in place, justice holds and supports any knowledge of right, love, and mercy, all the foundations of civilization and society that we hold precious.  Without justice, it is merely strength and power that wins; without justice, strength and power are de facto, The Right and The Good. 

Gravity causes people to fall down, sometimes to die—and justice does that too.  Human beings—when justice is served on them—decry justice, and shake their fist at God, as if God should come down and enter into human history and cause apples not to fall from trees, cause the universe to defy the law of gravity, cause the universe to temporarily abandon one of its laws.  He should, we believe, put a temporary hold on that particular law of the universe, when convenient for us.  The truly canny ones among us recognize that God the Creator Himself made the universe and its nature—and when pressed, we will decry the way He made the universe.  He should start again, and remake it all, only this time without justice.

But when justice is denied us—when we are wronged and every cell and tissue and fiber and muscle cries out for justice—we recognize that justice is the great cry of the wronged. 

We must have it.

Both the good thing and the bad thing about justice is that . . . justice will be served.  It is the nature of the world, and justice will always come, inevitably and inescapably, with the pale, calm face of truth.  We fear it, and we rejoice in it.  But no matter with what emotions we greet it, justice will arrive and look us in the face.

With all of the above acknowledged—both the horror of those moments for those POWs, and many other such moments besides that, as well as our need for justice—the thing that led me to tears was the immense struggle that those men would face, once fed, tended, and home again.  They would be left with those memories forever, and all of their attendent emotions.  They would replay those scenes over and over, seeing them again in living color, and struggle with their own responses. 

Most importantly, they would face the greatest struggle that I know of—the struggle to forgive unforgiveable actions by other humans.  When I say “unforgiveable” I do not mean that word as a trite euphemism.  I mean, that there are actions that are unforgiveable.

It is ironic that, though the universe was made with justice as one of its fundamental building elements, still we must forgive even in the absence of justice.  Setting aside altruistic motives or matters of human character or fruit of the spirit, the pragmatic reason we must forgive is because of the poison that we ourselves ingest when another person wrongs and violates us irretrievably and permanently.

Every time a person sins it harms not only the sinner but the sinned against.  And it is not merely the open, visible, and scarring flagrant harm of the actual sin, but the hidden, secret, invisible response of the victim to the sin and the sinner that is inevitable and deadly.

Ironically, the gross abuses, violations, and blows that most humans have experienced at the hands of others are both unforgiveable—and utterly necessary to forgive.  It is the final insult of the abuser—the overt harm, and the hidden poison, for which the tonic required is that which it is impossible to manufacture.

The most crushing recognition of my introspection during and after this movie was the realization that these men would be sent home, with a task that was simply impossible—to forgive that man who coldly, calculatedly, and with malice took the lives of their friends.  It would be the Great Struggle of the rest of their lives, and some would not ever rest from it.  Without such forgiveness, the poison would seep into every activity and relationship of their lives—their marriages, their roles as parents, their workplace, even their play.

It is, as we know, not possible to forgive an action like that.

It is inhuman.

We are not able.

We are confronted with something monstrous and inconceivable—forgiveness for that person or persons who has done us unspeakable and unforgiveable harm.

It would take a miracle.

It does take a miracle.

Forgiveness is a gift that comes from outside of us, from a Giver, in a miraculous way.  That does not mean that it does not encompass some hard work on our part.  But we can work and work for years, and without the Gift from God of the antidote, the poison remains within us.

Those of us who have just recently been through Lent have seen again how Jesus was the Great Sacrifice.  How Jesus entered into human history, and satisfied the Law of Justice.  How Jesus experienced the submission of powerlessness, overwhelming grief and loss, terrible injustice, and immense suffering.  How Jesus had justice served upon Him, and experienced the implacable laws of the universe, for someone else’s sins. And while experiencing these things, forgave freely and generously and simply.

Not easily, but simply.

Other than recognition of that unique fact of human history—a unique and history-turning fact—I do not have any easy answers for those of us who need the gift of forgiveness.  It is not possible.  Yet it is utterly necessary.  Given the fall of man, it is an inhuman act, in response to inhuman acts.  Yet a perfect human modelled it for us.  It is a miraculous gift, like rain that falls on the dry cotton fields in June.  And yet it does not come easily.  For some of us, rest from the great struggle never comes.

Perhaps you are not struggling with this issue right now, but I can guarantee you that someone else you know is.  Someone else has experienced terrible betrayal from a spouse, cruelty from a parent or loved one, a violent crime by a stranger, the death of a child by the hands of another, and the poison has entered their bloodstream.  I hope that you will reach out to them, not offering easy, trite answers, nor downplaying the depth of wrong done to them, but holding on to them amidst the waves, and offering them a strong right hand of friendship.

May we turn our faces to God, and ask Him for this impossible, miraculous, great gift of forgiveness.


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Warmly recommended on this excellent topic is The Railway Man, by Eric Lomax.

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[1] Posted by Unsubscribe on 05-02-2007 at 07:39 AM • top

Sarah,

You really touch a never in me with this article. I’ve been denied justice inside the Church for so long that my very being must be crying out for it. In a time of soaking prayer the lady, without prompting, starts crying out for justice for me.  One said, “that doesn’t sound very Christian.”

Sadly, he showed the cheap grace, easy life, prosperity gospel of so many in the US. The OT is filled with commands to seek justice!

Okay, so in the Lord redeeming my pain, I’ve written several email essays on Justice. I’ll not bore you with the proofs and make you suffer through my poor writing style here. Two items did emerge as I pondered.

First were three realms of justice. Distributive, Retributive & Punitive. I think we confuse the word to only mean the last. It is written, “vengeance is mine I will prepay.”  The Lord also shares some of His prerogative with the state. However we are commanded to work for the first two. Many ‘progressives’ have taken the first form as their new gospel. It does not negate our commands to work for just treatment of all. Then the next to correct a wrong. Avoiding the aberration of how TEC has defined them, I think of a play ground monitor. The doctrine of sin becomes quickly apparent on school grounds when adult supervision is absent—tends to begin to look like The Lord of the Flies. Then if a toy is taken, the bully needs to not only be stopped but the toy return, the boundary stone moved back etc.

The second thing that the Lord began to show me is how this is an active process. I dare say a vast majority of wrongs done to me were not the result of an action but of inaction. Where maybe there was one bully, but it’s those with authority who did nothing that exasperated the issue. It was the shunning of the youth group more than an active pushing out. Often the direct sins of recent were minor, often the people thought they got away with it, but there was no recourse (favoritism or just plain passivity).  When I sought Scripture, on item I noticed was the “seeking” justice part. As if this does not come naturally. We’re to seek the Lord, because naturally we focus on the god-of-self. In a similar way, justice doesn’t just happen, but we need to seek it.

I’m beginning to think we can not even begin to understand the Cross without a deep commitment to justice. My pain is also redeemed in my sensitivity towards distributive justice for the immigrant employees (once nearly fired for that) or people with disabilities. Often frustrated in these endeavors, but there has come a little more understanding of the words grace and mercy as well. We can only understand what mercy is if we know what punitive justice is about.

This is a topic I’ve rambled on for quite a long time as I process. I think it’s best to conclude this post. I’m very curious to see this series.

Thank you.

[2] Posted by Hosea6:6 on 05-02-2007 at 08:39 AM • top

For all the difficulties I’ve had with God’s people at times, He is still good. I’ve ended up in a parish where Justice and Forgiveness are somewhat explored.

One of my friend’s project is being released this summer, if in DC there is hope to get a distribution in an art theater. Also a companion book has been initiated if the Lord will allow a PBS interest.

http://www.asweforgivethose.com/

So an item of interest and prayer.

[3] Posted by Hosea6:6 on 05-02-2007 at 08:53 AM • top

Sarah: surprising that you chose the Japanese Warrior mentality as a vehicle here.  More later.

[4] Posted by terebinth on 05-02-2007 at 09:39 AM • top

Wonderful article.  As George Herbert said “He that cannot forgive others breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass if he would ever reach heaven; for everyone has need to be forgiven.” Easier said than done, because of our human nature.

The Umuvumu Tree Project in Rwanda is the best example of forgiving the unforgivable as part of a restorative justice model.  I would encourage all to read or watch a video about the project, or better yet, visit the site in Rwanda.

[5] Posted by Going Home on 05-02-2007 at 10:14 AM • top

RE: “Sarah: surprising that you chose the Japanese Warrior mentality as a vehicle here.”

Not really.

RE: “More later.”

Actually, no.  You are welcome to inveigh against me on an appropriate thread, but this is your one and only warning—do not take this thread off topic.

[6] Posted by Sarah on 05-02-2007 at 10:36 AM • top

CPKS,

Thanks for the book recommendation.  It looks very interesting.

And thank you, Hosea and Timothy, for the kind words.  Timothy, I believe that there is a movie about the situation in Rwanda, isn’t there?  Hopefully someone will remember the name.

[7] Posted by Sarah on 05-02-2007 at 10:38 AM • top

Hotel Rwanda ?

[8] Posted by Moot on 05-02-2007 at 10:57 AM • top

This coming Sunday’s lesson from Acts shows Paul and Barnabas maligned and run out of town, yet the church is filled with joy as the word progresses.  The apostles “shake the dust off their feet” (Jesus’ instruction is quoted in the Acts passage), and leave the judgment piece to God.
Looking back on some of the church indignities I’ve suffered, I find that I am more able to let go of stuff that tagged me, but really have a struggle where my wife and kids became targets (intended or not).  As Paul warns, in trying to keep the family happy, our minds become divided.  I compromise, perhaps, on some things God wants in order to spare the family from more pain (a process which of course causes its own set of tensions).
Thanks, Sarah, for bringing out the idea that Christians can “lose.”  A colleague recently described our efforts in a previous diocese, and he finally smiled and said, “I guess we lost.”  It was a very liberating moment, personally.  Yeah, by earthly measures, we lost.  But we discharged our duties before God and the rest is in his hands.

[9] Posted by Timothy Fountain on 05-02-2007 at 11:45 AM • top

Hotel Rwanda it is, and a truly inspiring story.  We watched it several weeks ago…twice!

[10] Posted by Chip Johnson, cj on 05-02-2007 at 12:36 PM • top

This is a great subject.  The older I am the more I love the military.  Many of them truly are giants and heros and fulfil the greater love hath no man than to give up his life for others.  Today we are swamped with those who have taken the role of “victim” and demand special favor under the sign of “justice.”  When I watch “Hotel Rwanda” or “Schindler’s List” I think of the contrast of the whinners who try to get into the parade and true victims.  Of course there will never be complete justice until He comes to mete it out.  Meanwhile we must tirelessly fight against evil and injustice and for the weak and helpless.

[11] Posted by PROPHET MICAIAH on 05-02-2007 at 02:01 PM • top

Sarah, very thought provoking.  The disturbing issue of unforgivable sins reminded me of the Pennsylvania Amish schoolhouse victims back in October and the reaction of the community there.  A quote from CNN:

Jack Meyer, a member of the Brethren community living near the Amish in Lancaster County, said local people were trying to follow Jesus’ teachings in dealing with the “terrible hurt.”

“I don’t think there’s anybody here that wants to do anything but forgive and not only reach out to those who have suffered a loss in that way but to reach out to the family of the man who committed these acts,” he told CNN.

I noted with amazement that they could forgive the unforgivable and also that it required adherence to Jesus’ teachings to do so.  I found that to be the real headline-worthy aspect of the terrible incident.

Perhaps there was hope for the men who returned home from the POW camp; perhaps they could finally find a way to forgive the unjust as well. 

And can you go so far as to consider how broken the lives of those committing the unforgivable sins must also have been?  What appeared to be strength and power did not win and ultimately those sinners had to face their own mirror of truth.

[12] Posted by T Chapman on 05-02-2007 at 02:07 PM • top

Hotel Rwanda was the popular movie.

Read this for a discription of the Umuvumu Tree project. Truly remarkable. http://www.pfm.org/article.asp?ID=2119.

[13] Posted by Going Home on 05-02-2007 at 02:23 PM • top

Timothy—the movie & book I referenced. Both ladies are at my parish— Laura Waters is doing the movie and Catherine Claire is writing the book, she flew out to see publisher recently.

[14] Posted by Hosea6:6 on 05-02-2007 at 02:37 PM • top

RE: “Perhaps there was hope for the men who returned home from the POW camp; perhaps they could finally find a way to forgive the unjust as well.”

Hello T Chapman,

I agree that many people who have been unjustly treated are able to forgive.  I am sure that some of those POWs were able to forgive the Japanese.  But I do think that such forgiveness is supernaturally given by God.  Some of it does seem, as you suggest, to involve empathy for the perpetrator of the injustice and understanding of how the perpetrator came to do such things.

But counselors and pastors over the decades have also dealt with Christians who struggle mightily to forgive, and for some reason forgiveness is blocked.  There are some things that can be worked through that may aid forgiveness later on . . . but sometimes even Christians go to their graves holding on to the rage and helplessness that they experienced decades earlier.

A part of my understanding of forgiveness, though, comes from my Reformed theology—I think too often Christians chastise other Christians who have experienced unspeakable ugliness and wickedness from others for not being “forgiving”, exhorting them to work harder and pray more, while explaining that they are sinning if they do not forgive.  While all of those things may be true, I don’t think that is the right way at all.  I think we need to show mercy to the unforgiving, and recognize that forgiveness is a gift from God.  We cannot churn it up in ourselves, though certainly there are some things that we may do to aid in *receiving* the gift when it arrives.

I did not mean to imply, though, in the article that people did not forgive—the example of the Amish is excellent.  Sometimes I think that those examples, though, sort of highlight the typical response, by the “stark contrast” method.  Sometimes, for instance, people are healed of cocaine addiction in an instant.  But most of the time, healing from addiction comes after countless times of failure and trying again.

I think that forgiveness can in some ways be likened to healing from addictions. 

Anyway, thanks for the comments.

[15] Posted by Sarah on 05-02-2007 at 03:06 PM • top

Sarah,
Thank you for this touching exploration of what can be a crippling dilemma facing a Christian.  This season, I moderated the discussion following a series of Lenten classes on forgiveness.  I found this quote by Anne Lamott in the July 2005 Catholic Digest, too late to use with the class:

“Forgiveness is having given up all hope for a better past.”

We really just have each day that the Lord gives us and His vineyard needs tending right now.  Anger and guilt are sins we borrow from the past as worry is a sin we borrow from the future.  Christ was with us.  Christ is with us.  Christ will be with us.  Forgive me for not being all God needs me to be.

We must forgive ourselves and each other.  Again, and again, and again….

[16] Posted by Tom Hengel on 05-02-2007 at 04:27 PM • top

In my experience, forgiveness benefits the forgiver much more than the forgiven.  Holding that kind of feeling in, without letting it go, without telling your persecutor that he or she is forgiven, makes one ill.  I have gone through times of not wanting to forgive one who trespassed against me,wallowing in the righteous anger I carried, but I was ultimately unable to carry that burden.  As I get older (now 60)that becomes increasingly more obvious,and I find it much easier to forgive than I did in my younger days.  I am not always as successful as I would wish, but I keep working until I find the ability to forgive. 
I cannot speak to the unspeakable horror of the Japanese prison camps, or the Amish schoolhouse killings.  I can only pray for what is in my own life.  Thank you, Sarah, for a most timely article.

[17] Posted by El Jefe on 05-02-2007 at 05:08 PM • top

A prayer I say regularly, is “I forgive.  Help Thou my unforgiveness.”  God helps.

[18] Posted by Jill Woodliff on 05-02-2007 at 06:54 PM • top

It’s been said that unforgiveness is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies from it.

Years ago I had an ongoing conversation with a Harvard graduate collegue who freely acknowledged that he believed in eugenics. He believed that gays should be shunned from society. He was not, at the time, a Christian but was really almost a Klansman in his views about race, intellegence, etc.

When I presented the Christian idea that we could love a sinner, while not agreeing with their moral choices, treat them as Jesus did with the woman at the well and the woman caught in adultry, he got very upset and accused me of weakening society by coddling morally weak people who would hurt the nation.

Eventually he became a Christian (no fault of mine, I’m afraid), and softened so much. Grace and a clear vision of Christ’s death helps us to understand how God can be just and loving at the same time. As we begin to humbly acknowledge and bewail our own sin, it gives up hope to see how God can change the heart of the most evil person, and indeed can change our hearts too.

[19] Posted by Capn Jack Sparrow on 05-02-2007 at 07:42 PM • top

Thank you Sarah for also reminding us of the past evils that have been defeated. It is so easy to think nothing has ever been so bad. Every time I hear of the Japanese behaviour in the war, I think of an elderly parishioner who as a primary school aged child was held in a Japanese POW camp in Indonesia. She lost both her parents and only survived because of the generosity of strangers. She will never talk about what happened - it is clearly still, more than 60 years later, something too traumatic.

[20] Posted by MargaretG on 05-02-2007 at 08:04 PM • top

Sarah, I like your idea of forgiveness as a gift from God and thank you for the further comments.  I have been able to forgive and therefore have not previously recognized it as the gift you have identified.  Thanks for the insight.  I also like and agree with the idea that the forgiver derives a greater benefit than the forgiven.  It is consistent with the notion that the unjust are really unproductive or counterproductive in the end and therefore tragic figures and in some ways pitiful or to be pitied.  Being able to see how self-destructive their actions are is the foundation of being able to forgive more easily and provide mercy to them.  The forgiveness and mercy does not mean the forgiver has abandoned his or her position.  All of this relates well to the current issues facing The Episcopal Church and the Communion and those caught up in it.  Thanks again.

[21] Posted by T Chapman on 05-02-2007 at 09:02 PM • top

One of my pastors has an aunt (now gone Home) who was captured by the Japanese, somewhere out in the Pacific, during WWII.  She was a missionary - not unlike one of the characters in the movie Paradise Road .  He showed me the scene where Glenn Close is talking to the missionary woman, asking her why she is go gracious to the Japanese.  The woman, almost in tears, says, “I feel sorry for them.”

My friend’s aunt never talked about her ordeals in the camps.  Her memoirs mention that she was a POW, using a single sentence:  “I was captured by the Japanese and held as a POW.”  (something like that).  No judgement.  No horror stories.

[22] Posted by Moot on 05-02-2007 at 09:29 PM • top

Hosea6:6, I am very familiar with the programs in Rwanda, and are thrilled to see the documentary.  They should interview Dan van Ness, or Truro, who was very involved in a leadership role.

[23] Posted by Going Home on 05-02-2007 at 10:26 PM • top

Timothy—Please keep lifted in prayer, today there is discussion w/ a publisher (9:30 MDT)! The Lord has been good, there was an interviewswith President Paul Kagame, so in those area things went well. Currently the prayers are for distribution (that can be the most difficult part, friends finally were able to sell their film after a long time w/o returns). So prayers are coveted that the Lord continues to opens door.

[24] Posted by Hosea6:6 on 05-03-2007 at 05:07 AM • top

“Vengeance is mine, I will repay”—Firefox 2.0 was spell check, when you dyslexic, that’s not always a good thing red face
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In humility, let me continue on topic:

Last night I read something on T19 that caused my thoughts to continue pondering Sarah’s post:

“Forgiveness does not require reconciliation!” (see link for full context, I’m using only one elelment).

I’m also blessed with a rector who has suffered similar experiences to my own. In helping disburse the anger he advised me to place the situations in context:

“Seeing this doesn’t make the brokenness right, but it does help clarify the problems. One of the ways the Lord has healed me in some of the same kinds of frustrations has been through thinking in terms of systems theory. A helpful book, from a purely business perspective, is Peter Senge, <u>the 5th Discipline</u>. He has a great illustration about a beer distribution crisis. Everyone in the distribution network is well-intentioned and hard working, and yet because the system fails, they end up blaming one another and hating one another.

I do think it’s worth while ponder what forgiveness is and what it is not.

I understand forgiveness to be the release of the right to punish, to release the emotion. It does not automatically lead to reconciliation, but it is required to necessitate true reconciliation. Also tying in my above post, does not negate working for a change in a broken system.

An abused wife is commanded by Lord Jesus to forgive her husband. This does not mean she has to return to the abuse. Also does not mean it is wrong to involve the state. It is possible for her to forgive and press charges, if she is not seeking vengeance in them, rather a series of protective steps. If he does truly repent, this does not mean that he goes unchecked, but earned the accountability to insure her protection.

Rosa Parks had commands to forgive people of my ethnicity. However that does not mean she should not have worked against the corrupt and unjust systems set up that oppressed her. The Lord asked her to work for justice without anger and malice.

I’m getting REAL personal. We are commanded to forgive ++KJS, +VGR, +Chane, +Spong, +Lee and a long list of others. This does not meant we must reconcile without repentance. It also does not mean that we stop trying to bring a corrupt system back into line with Scripture or work for change where there is an injustice. It does mean we work without the all too easy sneer, demands for revenge or our usual teeth & horns, but work in charity towards those who have harmed us, but we continue to work.

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The next stanza of the email from my pastor:
“Looking with the widest-angle lens, the church in North America is in systems failure. There is need for major reformation at every level. When a pastor or church leader somewhere does something right, especially in the Episcopal church, there is great reason for rejoicing.

[25] Posted by Hosea6:6 on 05-03-2007 at 05:37 AM • top

Sarah, good essay.

After years and years of wrestling with monumental unsuccess with the difficulty of forgiving, I happened upon a realisation that helped me a great deal.  I pass it along here in case it may help anyone else.

‘Vengeance is Mine, and I will repay,’ says the Lord.  Very often the Lord says what He says precisely because, if He did not say it, we would believe the contrary. 

The Lord tells us, ‘Vengeance is Mine, and I will repay’ because, if He did not, we would disbelieve it.  We would look at the impunity of the evil in the world, be jealous of those who do wrong, and fret ourselves over the one who succeeds in evil schemes. 

All sins have some great good at their root, and the passion for vengeance is a passion for repayment, for annihilation, of evil.  It is a passion for judgement.  When we allow ourselves to believe the lie that vengeance is NOT God’s, and that He will NOT repay, this passion is allowed to grow beyond control, in the manner of a cancer.  I observed that what often drove my difficulty in forgiving was a tacit belief that, unless I undertook the role of repayer, the people who had so flouted the demands of justice would go on with complete impunity.

It is to rebut this misconception that God tells us this:  ‘Vengeance is Mine; and I will repay.’

I submit that the widespread watering-down of God in much of what’s left of Christendom—the de-emphasis upon God’s judging righteousness and his incandescent wrath, has the effect of removing this assurance.  In so doing, it confirms our natural inclination to believe the lie that any righteousness that’s going to happen will do so only if we usher it in.

I think that an accurate view of God’s judgement, of His horror-producing wrath, is the great and neglected support of the practice of forgiveness by those of us still on this earth.  If I really have before my mind an accurately-horrific image of Hell, and an accurately-strict understanding of what righteousness it would take to avoid it, God’s warning assurance that ‘vengeance is Mine; and I will repay’ suddenly removes most of the obstacles to forgiveness.  Could I prosecute and execute the cruel prison camp commandant?  The Lord assures us that He will do much, much worse to him.  (Unless he makes a real, and exquisitely costly, repentance.)

Realising this, I find that my emotions undergo a profound change.  I find that my vindictive impulse softens with the knowledge that God will redress the evil—profoundly, precisely.  With the prospect of eternal horror awaiting my fellow sinners, I find that my own sinful vindictiveness gives way even to pity, and sympathy—and a desire to help this person to repent and seek God’s forgiveness.  Similarly, there is always in this the reminder that my own sins merit me no less punishment.

Consider how great a disservice the teachers in our churches do when they downplay God’s righteous wrath.  The urgency of the need to preach repentance drops to near nothing.  Forgiveness is replaced with excusing—or, worse, with tolerance.  Tolerance is not a virtue; tolerance is, at best, the sin of sloth; more, it is a creation of our own fleshly nature, and it is no stronger than our own natural strengths and emotions.  Tolerance pretends to ignore sin, to ignore and ignore it to the limits of our ability to pretend it is not there—and when our strength of will fails us under the enormity of some great sin, we lash out in sudden rage, our stifled sense of right and wrong bursting through the feeble control we had tried to maintain.  I think that this is why we see people who tout ‘tolerance’ as a high virtue lashing out with barbarous vindictiveness when they are finally faced with an evil that overpowers the merely-human self-control of which ‘tolerance’ is made. 

Tolerance, relying on our own emotional strength and self-control, whitewashes the tomb, pretending to ignore the rot going on within.  Forgiveness, by contrast, transforms and resurrects that which is within.  It is a grace and miracle of God.  It addresses the sin in its enormity and, by God’s own authority and power, converts it back into life and health.  In order to work, forgiveness MUST acknowledge the evil, in all its foul magnitude, and acknowledge the punishment which the evil draws by necessity from the righteous God.  Thus, paradoxically, a robust sense of the judgement and wrath of God helps us not only to repent appropriately of our own sins, but also to extend a genuine and lasting forgiveness to those who sin against us.

[26] Posted by Africanised Anglican on 05-03-2007 at 11:55 AM • top

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[27] Posted by terebinth on 05-03-2007 at 10:22 PM • top

Terebinth,
You were warned.  You are now banned.

[28] Posted by commenatrix on 05-04-2007 at 07:37 AM • top

Africanised Anglican, thanks for the excellent analysis.  A very helpful series of insights.

[29] Posted by T Chapman on 05-05-2007 at 04:09 AM • top

There is an excellent book called “When Forgiveness Doesn’t Make Sense” by Robert Jeffress.  It is apparently out of print but used copies may be obtained from amazon.com for $5.95 and up.  Sometimes I’ve ordered 3 or 4 copies at a time to give away.

This book delves into the kinds of situations where we have the most trouble forgiving people or when it seems impossible (i.e. the person has died or totally distanced themselves.)  It’s a good read about a difficult, soul-searching subject.

[30] Posted by Marcia King on 05-06-2007 at 03:24 PM • top

Marcia: Do you think a person who and died or totally distanced themselves is difficult? We’re all made unique, I guess those are the easiest for me. If I pull away, over time I can forgive, it when I’m going to have to see the ‘offender’ again that’s difficult for me, especially if they are unrepentant or manipulative about it.

(Told you this thread struck a nerve - I happen to be in process, again)

[31] Posted by Hosea6:6 on 05-06-2007 at 09:16 PM • top

Greetings Hosea 6:6:  For some, yes.  Sometimes the issues are so long-standing and so deep that the forgiver (or the person in need of forgiveness) believes they must talk directly to the other person involved in order to heal completely.  If either has died or refuses to communicate, the problem continues to fester.  This may sound a little too trite or pat but for Christians, we have the opportunity to appeal directly to our Lord for both the forgiveness we seek or to relieve the anger we feel toward the one who has hurt us deeply.  As you stated, it is indeed a process, rarely an overnight occurance but it is possible, through grace.  I have experienced such forgiveness this way myself, including the memories of the pain.

I just re-read your note.  The book I mentioned also addressed the situations where the person is unrepentant/manuipulative and still in one’s life.  I agree, having to see the person who hurt you every day can also be extremely painful.

[32] Posted by Marcia King on 05-07-2007 at 09:55 AM • top

Sarah, ths is not specifically about this issue. . . . I believe that another congregation is about to leave TEC; I wish everyone would stay put until we see what will happen in September. Contact me if you want more info.

Don

[33] Posted by DonaldH on 05-08-2007 at 05:08 AM • top

Sarah,

  You’ve a nice style do keep writing.  On forgiveness, I’m thinking it is difficult for some and a good thing to think about each time you want to receive communion (it is for me).  But it does offer release for both you and the one you forgive, more so for you though.  I find it is something which must be prayed about and practised constantly but the release….the release is worth it.

S/F,

W. Blocker

[34] Posted by blockerw on 05-20-2007 at 06:27 PM • top

Sarah, this is a wonderful piece; keep writing. A past rector of ours had something important (for me, at least) to say once about forgiveness: We might not be able to forgive a particular act, situation, etc., but the Lord can. So, ask him to do it for you, believe it, and it will happen. Again, thanks very much.

Don

[35] Posted by DonaldH on 05-26-2007 at 12:01 AM • top

Sarah,
I wish you would address the element of “asking for forgiveness” before forgiveness is “earned” or the offended is “obligated” morally to forgive.

For instance if the Japanese commandant sees nothing wrong in what he did (from his point of view), then forgiveness for him is futile and purposeless.  Forgiveness in this case only helps one the one who forgives to “forget” about the circumstances, or “put it behind them.”  And if the commandant dies without being repentent, we are not morally obligated to forgive him, except for relief of our own peace of mind (IF it bothers us).

In the case of God/Jesus forgiving us, He has already acted in forgiveness, now it is up to us to decide to accept His act of forgiveness.  But if we refuse to “repent,” if we cannot find it in ourselves to be sorry for what we have done, then we do not “ask” for forgiveness, and it does not get accepted (by us), and it is meaningless even though offered.

Likewise, the Christian is not “obligated” to forgive the homosexual who refuses to acknowledge that this is sinful behavior, and is not sorry for what he does and celebrates - until he realizes what he is doing is wrong, and asks for forgiveness.

Yes, the homosexual should be admitted into our fellowship so that he can be lead to see that his actions are harmful, but we are not obligated to celebrate his acts, or reward him with positions of power or influence over our young.

Please address the aspect as to whether there is a need for someone to ask for forgiveness before we are obligated to give it.  I think this is a point that the Christian has difficulty with - being required to forgive seven times seventy times, if the guilty party does not ask for forgiveness.  Of course, if he genuinely is sorry for what he does each and every time he does so - and genuinely asks for forgiveness - we must for give each and every time.

[36] Posted by MasterServer on 11-18-2007 at 05:18 AM • top

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